Tuesday 22 August 2017

SINFUL PLEASURES Guest Post Sonni d Soto

Sinful Pleasures, the hot new anthology from Sinful Press is released this week. Today I'm delighted to host a guest post from one of the contributors Sonni de Soto

In Defense of Dirty Talk

Sonni de Soto

When you’re inexperienced, sex often feels just as intimidating as it does fascinating. It’s this mysterious miracle that you’re sure everyone but you is doing and that, if only you could be doing it too, your life—you—would be completely changed. In movies and stories, we talk about first times in terms of romantic perfection, with beautiful bodies moving in flawless harmony, or messy mistakes that can ruin lives. Too often, we treat it as if it should be the most natural thing in the world, that we should just arrive on the dating scene knowing every position and trick by instinct. And that, if we don’t, we’re somehow deficient and doomed in the bedroom forever. Which too often leaves us feeling incredibly inept and too embarrassed to ask questions or talk about it.

But the dirty, little secret we rarely tell each other is: none of us are experts.

Even if we know the basics—how your parts match up with your partner’s—it’s impossible to know exactly the best way to do that the first time. So, whether we like it or not, we have to do the unthinkable: we have to talk about it. None of us are mind readers. Even with all the experience and knowledge in the world, you will never know more about another person’s pleasure than they do. Because they’re the ones in their bodies. And, even if one tact worked well with previous partners, there’s no guarantee it will with another. And the only way to know is to communicate and explore with each other. After all, you can’t exactly discover the answers until you’ve asked the questions.

In my new story, “On the Line,” in Sinful Press’s new anthology Sinful Pleasures, I explore how that kind of discovery can not only be helpful but sexy as hell too. By talking out your fantasies with your partners, you can learn how they—and how you—like to have sex. What your turn-ons and preferences are. Where your comfort levels and boundaries lie. And, of course, what sexy, new things you’d like to try when the time comes.

It’s also a great way to explore and enjoy each other’s sexuality, even when you may not be ready or able to do so physically. It helps foster intimacy and boost confidence, not to mention build anticipation.

Because sex, whether the first time or the four-thousandth, should fill you and your partner with pleasure, not insecurity. And, if fantasy-sharing can get you there, well, a little dirty talk never hurt anyone.

For more from Sonni de Soto, check out her stories in the upcoming Sexy Librarian’s Dirty 30 Vol. 2, coming out later in July, Sexy Little Pages’ Goodbye Moderation: Gluttony, and Cleis Press’s Unspeakably Erotic: Lesbian Kink, available for pre-sale now.

Excerpt from “On The Line”

Sinful Pleasures

Imagine us,” her voice whispered in his ear. “Imagine us in your room. On your bed.”

Chris let out a sigh and tried. His mind focused, picturing her painted and so-mobile mouth forming her words. He imagined the familiar flush that always swept over her cheeks right before he took her mouth, that visible sign of her excitement that never failed to fuel his own.

And then there, in his room, on his bed, in his mind, like magic, she was laid seductive and stretched-out before him. His hands itched to grab the curves of her body. The swell of her sweeping hips. The pointed tips of her delectable breasts. The length of her long legs. The soft spread of sun-ripened skin, that always held the sweet scent of citrus, over the generous lushness of her body.

He could hear his own breath rasp as his mind transported her from her dorm room to the foot of his bed.

Good,” he heard her coo in his ear. “Now that you have me there, whatever will you do with me?” Her mockingly na├»ve tone left him feeling provoked and promised.

I want you naked.”


Sinful Press welcomes you to lose yourself in Sinful Pleasures.  

Join us as we weave our way from mainstream erotic romance to surreal sex-filled dreamscapes and everything in between, created by some of the best new and established voices in the erotica genre. 

Janine Ashbless, Ella Scandal, Sonni de Soto, Jo Henny Wolf, Lily Harlem, Lady Divine, Gail Williams, Samantha MacLeod, Tony Fyler, Ellie Barker, Lisa McCarthy

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Author Bio:

Sonni de Soto is a kinkster of color who is also an English major and graduated from the University of Minnesota. She also won the third place 2008 International Aeon Award story winner (Published in Albedo One Issue 38). Sonni has two BDSM erotica novels published, The Taming School with Sizzler Editions and Show Me, Sir with Sinful Press. She also has BDSM erotica short stories in Riverdale Ave Books's First Annual Geeky Kink Anthology, The Sexy Librarian's anthology For the Men (and the Women who Love Them), and Sexy Little Pages' Sacred & Profane and soon Rule #34 anthologies, as well and several others.



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